INSPIRATIONAL: AWESOME FACT!!! 9 things you must stop doing if you want to be successful in life (Must Read)

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From: www.naijabiggists.com
By Shutdown Brown

Earl
Nightingale, American motivational speaker and author, once said, “We
become what we think about.” Perhaps truer words have never been spoken.
The human mind is an incredible thing, and having the right attitude
and mindset has routinely been stated by numerous successful people as
being a pivotal key to success.



Sometimes, however, it is easy to get
side-tracked. Situations in life can get in the way of our goals,
self-esteem, and personal well-being. Truthfully, success is a
subjective term, and everyone will disagree over what constitutes being
successful. Here are a list of guidelines, however, of some things to
stop doing if you want to be or feel successful.
1. Stop Expecting Perfection
Often, we get frustrated when things don’t
work out the way we want them to, or as quickly as we’d like them to. We
stress over small details, or beat ourselves up for getting one thing
wrong, or forgetting to dot one I or cross one T. People are fallible.
Mistakes and drawbacks are a fact of life. Nothing is nor will it ever
be perfect, and that’s okay.
Stressing out over minute details or things
that would have been impossible to get to is unproductive and unhealthy.
Start saying that you will do your personal best, because at the end of
the day, you’re not in competition with anyone but yourself.
Example: Jennifer Lawrence is someone who
everyone seems to be talking about right now, but did you know she was
rejected for the role of Bella Swan in ‘Twilight‘? She also 
didn’t take 
theatre classes. She just trusted her instincts and worked as hard as
possible to land acting roles. Obviously, she wasn’t perfect for every
role, but she didn’t expect perfection. She takes her failures and
rejections well, trying to learn from each situation.
2. Stop Saying Yes When You Want to Say No
It’s always important to know your limits,
and people will always try to test them. Human beings are social
animals. We want to interact with others and feel like we are a part of
something or like we are special to someone else. People also, for the
most part, like to please others. Sometimes, however, it’s easy to be
taken advantage of. Whether it’s helping a co-worker with something when
you can’t really afford to, or loaning a friend money you can’t really
afford to give.
Out of guilt, people often say yes to people
and situations that they really should say no to. Don’t be afraid to
trust your gut and say no. Sometimes you can’t stay a few hours later
because you had other plans or important errands to run. Sometimes it’s
okay to say no to that co-worker that keeps nagging you for help but is
really just stalling because they don’t want to work and know you’ll
help them.
Sometimes it’s okay to prioritize other
things over work. Saying no is healthy. Saying no means that you know
your boundaries and can demand respect.
Example: Margaret Thatcher is known as being
tough. She was a powerful politician. She also knew during her career
when she had to take a stand, and sometimes that stand meant saying no
to bad political and economic policy.
3. Stop Negative Self-Dialogue
We all can probably play back in our minds
every negative or embarrassing thing 
we’ve ever done to ourselves, been
subjected to, or done to someone else. Whether it’s tripping over one’s
shoelaces in the fourth grade, or being fired from a job, wronging
someone else, or overhearing someone speaking negatively about us, those
thoughts are forever solidified in our minds.
Replaying those thoughts, however, and
constantly punishing oneself for past mistakes, is counter-productive at
certain points. At some point, it’s more important to learn from
situations and move on, instead of psychologically beating yourself up.
The next time you find yourself saying, “I’m not pretty enough”, “I did this horrible thing once five years ago and
I’ll never forgive myself”, or any type of statement along those lines,
turn off that negative self-dialogue. Look in the mirror and say
something kind to yourself. Read some inspirational quotes. Acknowledge
that you are taking steps and making an effort to be a better person.
Admit to yourself that everyone makes mistakes, and most importantly,
that making mistakes is okay.
Example: This article does a good job of
listing Steve Job’s failures. We remember him anyway, and we remember
him as a pioneer and someone who 
didn’t give up. When things go wrong,
and they often do, it’s easy for us to remember every mistake we have
ever made along the way.
Sometimes it’s easy to lose sight of our
goals because of that lack of confidence. Don’t give up and attempt to
stay positive. Train your brain to think of things in a new, more
positive way. Most of all, keep working hard. Failure 
doesn’t have to be
permanent.
4. Stop Focusing On Just Today
Successful people tend to understand the
value of a good plan. They plan out their day, their goals, a budget and
they plan how much to save for retirement. That 
doesn’t mean they don’t
have fun, though. They most certainly do! They just make sure to plan
when it is appropriate and inappropriate to have fun. They make time for
productivity and fun, but still save and think about the future.
So, stop just focusing on today and having
fun. Think about where you want to be in five, 10 or 15 years down the
road! Having a good focus aids in success!
Example: Neil deGrasse Tyson has been in
love with the universe and science since he was nine years old. Because
of that love, he worked long-term to study the things he cared about. He
was accepted into Harvard where he majored in physics, eventually
moving on to advanced education. His list of accomplishments would take
up another full article in and of itself.
5. Stop Ignoring Your Goals
Stop believing things will just work out for
you because you’re a good person. Good things only happen to people who
make an effort. A part of making an effort is setting goals for
oneself. As evidenced in the previous point, it’s not enough to just
focus on the day at hand. It’s important to manage time and set
short-term and long-term goals in order to be able to track progress and
have something to strive for.
Example: Alan Turing is considered the
father of artificial intelligence and computers. He also broke the code
to the Nazi encryption machine called Enigma. He faced many challenges
along the way, such as the inability to identify with others and being
charged with indecency, for which he was eventually pardoned. Despite
his personal struggles, though, he managed to break the code for Enigma,
saving approximately 14 million people from death and in turn helped
end World War 2.
6. Stop Isolating People
Successful people understand that not
everything is about work, church or similar obligations. Some things are
about family, relaxation, and hobbies. It’s easy to get the impression
that everyone who feels or defines themselves as successful probably has
no spare time on their hands, and in some cases, that’s true.
However, it isn’t always. Social isolation
can kill people. In fact, many successful people have mastered the art
of balance. They don’t isolate the people they love because they have
large goals or something they want to accomplish. Instead, they
incorporate those they love into their goals and hobbies.
Example: According to a recent Forbes
article, many leaders feel lonely. However, here are 25 examples of
social business leaders who seem to thrive on relationships. It’s okay
to know how to work alone and prefer that, but it’s also important to be
able to rely on your staff, friends, and family for support.
Involving people in leadership or product
processes makes them feel valued and provides valuable feedback.
Successful people enjoy that relationship. They also enjoy their time
away from their goals and work to spend time with their loved ones.
7. Stop Comparing Yourself To Everyone Else
Successful people understand that the only
person they can compete with today is the person they were yesterday.
They are too focused on themselves and their goals to worry about anyone
else. They don’t want to compare themselves to others because it’s
counter-productive. However, they do 
analyse where they have weak points
and are able to genuinely admire people who have mastered things they
have not.
There is no use to comparing yourself to
someone else. It’s counter-productive and harmful to your self-esteem. It
also helps to 
harbour negative self-dialogue.
Example: Taylor Swift is one of the most
successful recording artists of our time, but before that, she was a
struggling musician in Nashville playing at small venues and coffee
shops. She would turn in demos to various studios, covering a variety of
songs.
It was only when she started playing and
writing her own music that she got noticed and became the celebrity she
is today. She faced a lot of adversity as well. There were people who
doubted her skills and told her she 
couldn’t sing. Her confidence and
faith in herself overcame that.
8. Stop Living In The Past
Successful people learn from their failures,
but they do not live in the past. They take the skills and lessons they
acquired from their failures and apply them to the present and future.
Don’t live in your own personal past. Don’t define yourself by who you
were. Define yourself by who you are today and by who you’re working
toward becoming.
Example: Would we even remember Thomas
Edison if he gave up on his ideas before becoming successful? Can you
imagine simply focusing on what happened yesterday? So what if yesterday
was a failure? Try again! Failure teaches us about what 
doesn’t work,
and helps us get closer to a process that does work. Choose your
attitude and control it. Move forward. Remember, failure is feedback.
9. Stop Tolerating Dishonest People
Successful people appreciate other people
for their unique traits and gifts. They do not attempt to harm,
belittle, or in any way demean others for their own successes or ideas.
They are open to relationships with others, but know when to cut the
cord, so to speak.
People can be too forgiving when it comes to
being wronged, and it’s important to know one’s limits. Successful
people do not tolerate negative and dishonest people, because they are
too busy loving honest, sincere people.
-Emina Dedic