Ikakke Bassey|1 July 2016|8:19am
A young beautiful graduate, last two weeks bump into a business discussion I had with my business associates over a meal at a restuarant. She seemed worried over her Academic matters; as she pleaded with my friend to unplug his phone from the nearby electric socket so she could charge her's. Eventually she had a space to sit and was privileged to listen to our discusses. Ultimately she bumped in (though that was uncivilized), but we gave her a chance to express herself. I could deduce a great deal of developmental gaps in her life.
A graduate of Microbiology. Her questions and concerns varries between work and career. She has no clue as to what life holds in the future. I asked her one simple question: "what would you like to do?" Stories…hear her talk: "you know am a woman nau. My own is not a problem, but I like little children, eehmm…I love teaching, I also like to do little little business. Also, I like all these eeehh…medical things. But, am a woman, you know!". Those were her answer to a single straight-line question.
Now, these were the thoughts going on inside my mind:
1. If I needed a "date", I wouldn't "date" you.
2. If I never married, I wouldn't marry you.
3. As an employer of labour, I wouldn't employ you.
4. If my wife were to choose friends, I wouldn't approve you.
"Good understanding giveth favour: but the way of transgressors (ignorant) is hard" Proverbs:13:15.
As she sat there gazing at us, favour had passed her by; Why? She doesn't have good knowledge of herself. Now, it will be hard for you to help such a person. It's simple: if you know what you want, I can tell you where to get it or which direction to go. But it will be hard for me to tell you what you want and then tell you where to get what you want.
Many people don't know what they want in life. Life choses their experience. That's not how to live. When you discover yourself, you will discover so many things around you.
Tomorrow I shall be reacting on the phrase, "am a woman nau…" as extracted from the above experience with that lady – to address the women on certain societal dysfunctions that cripples their productivity as unique entities.
Stay tuned.
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…raising men of relevance,
Ikakke Bassey
Is a Management Consultant
